The world can be very confusing if you’re a tiny furball. Imagine you were a cat. You’d be surrounded by large creatures that feed you and give you treats and cuddles just because you’re adorable. What a strange world that is!
You’d be shy and confused too! Do the featherless bipeds around you mean well? And you’d question it even more when they don’t treat you right!
That’s why bringing a shy cat out of their shell requires patience, gentleness, and a bit of creativity! But keep in mind, every cat has its unique personality! What works for one kitty may not work for another.
1. Create A Cozy And Safe Environment
This is a necessary first step no matter what animal you own! Think about it: you can be given all the hugs and all the treats. But if you were in a loud minefield, the last thing on your mind would be trust!
Cats feel more comfortable when they have a secure and quiet place to retreat to. Set up an area with a comfy bed, some toys, and maybe a cat tent. A cardboard box should also do the trick!
You could say that you have to play fort with them! Shy cats are less likely to explore if they don’t feel they have a base of operations to return to.
Another thing you can do: use a blanket or shirt that smells like you for their little fort project! That way, you get your cat used to your presence! Aww!
2. Speak Their Language
This is a language lesson Duolingo can’t provide you with! To communicate with cats, you need both: body language and spoken language! Harsh movements and eye contact can seem threatening!
Here’s a recipe: spend time sitting quietly near your cat. Let them approach you. Blink slowly, speak softly, and avoid direct eye contact.
Slow blinking is like a cat’s way of saying “You can be trusted.” Try mimicking! It may help you form a bond with these cuties.
You can also try imitating their meows! Though, be careful not to overdo it. Slide into the ‘conversation’ gently!
3. Tempt Them With Treats
Who wouldn’t want to get snacks for trying to be social? This is a neat little trick that’s sure to make at least a small difference!
Use your cat’s favorite treats to entice them to approach you. Don’t immediately feed them out of your hand, though! Take it slow.
Place the treats nearer to you each time, until they are comfy enough to eat from your hand. Positive reinforcement! It builds trust and helps them associate you with good things. And what’s better than yummy treats plus a nice hooman?
You can also include a puzzle feeder or treat ball! Just like how humans enjoy watching a YouTube video during mealtime, cats like their distractions too!
4. Be Active And Patient
This seems like an obvious piece of advice, but it’s good to have a reminder! Introduce toys like laser pointers, crinkle balls, or whatever you notice your cat likes. Let them “hunt” at their own pace.
For kitties, playing is a stress reliever. Interactive toys can make them feel in control!
A tip for those whose cats aren’t really fond of toys: just spend time with them. Take a chance, and engage with them any way you can. Watch the rain together. Make fun of dogs with the cat language you learned! Anything, but just devote yourself!
5. Respect Boundaries
I know cats are adorable, and I know you just want to pick up your small feline and nuzzle it! But don’t rush petting or picking them up! Instead, observe. Look at their body language. Are their ears forward or relaxed? Is their tail upright? Are they purring?
Breaking these boundaries can increase fear. That’s why forcing interactions isn’t such a good idea. By waiting, you can show they’re in charge, and that there’s nothing to be afraid of!
Once they’re ready, offer gentle chin or cheek scratches. They’re often a shy cat’s favorite!
6. Make It All A Routine
I would argue that this is the most important step. Being consistent is key to helping shy cats feel welcome and secure! Following all the steps isn’t always possible – life is busy and messy, after all. But keeping a routine is a lot more manageable!
Plan your day and make it predictable. Predictability can reduce stress and assure your cat that everything is okay in their environment. And don’t forget, do your best each day!
7. Use Calming Scents And Music
Sometimes, a peaceful atmosphere can make all the difference. Consider using feline pheromone diffusers like Feliway, which mimic calming scents that mother cats produce to soothe their kittens.
Soft music or nature sounds can also help reduce stress and create a more comforting space for your shy cat. The calmer the environment, the more likely your cat will feel secure enough to explore.
8. Introduce New People And Pets Gradually
If you have guests or other pets in the household, introduce them to your shy cat slowly and carefully. Keep initial interactions brief and positive, allowing your cat to observe from a distance.
Providing treats or gentle praise during these moments can help your cat associate new experiences with positive outcomes, reducing fear over time. Patience is key, so let your cat set the pace!